You seem to be going along just fine, when — wham! — a setback sends you veering off course. Your forward movement comes to a grinding halt and your motivation plummets. At such times, your self-esteem may crash as well, leaving you waylaid by feelings of fear, doubt, and hopelessness.
It’s not easy to deal with setbacks — they are emotionally arousing, draining, and taxing. The good news, though, is there are specific skills that can help you turn a setback into a comeback. The key is to remember to use them. Here is your comeback toolkit:
1. Tune in to your thoughts. Many will be exaggerated and irrational statements: “My life is over, I’m a failure.” Counterpunch using rational thoughts that give you perspective: “It’s not the end of the world, I will have many other chances.”
2. Use your sense of humor. Doing so will help reduce your negativity, restore your perspective, and the endorphins will energize you making productive actions easier to do.
3. Practice relaxation. Doing a relaxation exercise a few times a day will prevent you from feeling overwhelmed and stressed out and keep your thinking rational.
4. Engage in physical activity. Keeping active energizes you for positive action and prevents you from sitting home and feeling sorry for yourself.
5. Use your support team. Don’t complain to them but go to them to help you problem solve.
6. Reassess goals and priorities. A setback becomes a great time to look for new life path.
7. Make yourself hopeful. Hope is the best of all possible things Instill hope in your self by identifying and creating multiple pathways —different resources and strategies that you can use to achieve your goals. The more pathways you develop, the more optimistic you will become making you confident that you will achieve the goals you desire. When this happens, “You’re back baby!”
Setbacks happen to all of us. I suggest you make a list of the tools mentioned and keep them in sight — you’ll be more likely to use them and it will be easier to turn a setback into a comeback.
I’m sure you have your comeback tools too — I’d like to hear them.